Showing posts with label people. Show all posts
Showing posts with label people. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

On usurping the bed

Dearest boy,

you know that the AC isn't working in our bedroom and K and I are sleeping in the guest room since the past 4 weeks. The bed in the guest room is meant for, you know, mostly my mom, or guests who obviously are not long staying. It is therefore a comfortable king sized cot and not the super large one we are used to.

The placement of the AC duct also is such that it hits the cot near the bottom part. And that is where all the trouble has begun. From a pup who never wanted to get onto the bed and sleep, you have turned into a lout who never wants to get off the bed. Grappling as we are with lesser surface area, we now have to accommodate a giant dog on the sleeping area.

You climb on, settle onto my blanket and render me immobile for the rest of the night. Pray why can't you sleep on K's side of the bed? Or why can't you get off of my blanket?

For starters, I know you are a big boy, but amma needs to get some sleep too you know! and I am too polite to kick you off the bed. So be nice and learn to move a little when nudged

Sunday, April 28, 2013

Travel



The last week of March, we went on a family vacation. I have taken ages to write this, because I have mostly abandoned this blog. However, I needed to write down all that happened. Particularly because of the following reasons
  1. i was very happy with our vacation
  2. i wanted to share the experience with the meagre readers of this blog
  3. wanted to share some do's and dont's about traveling with a pet because that is still a rarity in India
We made plans to go to Goa. The reasons were many. Firstly, the humans wanted to go there. Secondly, it is one of the most pet friendly places in India.

The only point of worry was the fact that goa would be like a furnace in the end of March. But we countered that by picking an air conditioned resort which was bang on the beach and meant we would have nice sea breeze the whole day.

I mentioned on the pet sitter’s forum, that a friendly dog was half the battle won while traveling. I said this because of a few reasons. One being that a friendly dog is welcome almost anywhere. If I would have collected 10 bucks everytime someone stopped to pet you or called you cute, we could have stayed an extra night! Let me add well behaved to the list. We ensured right from the time you were a puppy, that people didn’t pet you till you were calmly seated. So despite meeting several strangers everyday, you know that no matter how excited you are, you have to sit still till they can pet you. No one wants to make friends with a dog that is over excited or aggressive. When people realise you are friendly and harmless, they lighten up and allow you into places like shopping arcades too where an ill behaved pet would hardly be welcome.

While we haven’t taught you any tricks like bring and fetch, roll over or even the basic handshake, you know to sit and stay still when you are in public. It has held you and us in good stead and ensured we can travel with you and not be embarrassed or inconvenienced.

On our way back to Hyderabad, we decided to stop over at Bijapur. This is a small town and had hardly any hotels to speak of, leave alone a pet friendly one. We called a place, one day ahead of our journey to get accommodation, clearly mentioning we had a dog. We were assured we could bring you, but Murphy’s law was at work and when we did land up, after a tiring hot day in the car, with a tired and hungry you, they suddenly refused to give us a room. It was past 8 p.m and we had few options. After K spoke with them (politely) and said we had only made the drive because of their reassurance, also promising that you were a well behaved dog, they relented and let us stay. All the while during the discussion, you patiently waited on the leash with me outside the reception, but within sight of the manager. I doubt he would have allowed us to stay if you were acting like a crazy dog.

Most highway dhabas allow people to bring their pets. Except places like kamat and stuff. What we do in that case is, request for the food to be carried outside and eat near the car/ in the garden if they have one/ ask them to set up a table for us outside. They have the right to property and only a polite request has some chance of being obliged to. At a dhaba too, we ensure you are leashed and sit at our feet, not running around mad.



The most important thing while traveling with a pet is to know if he/ she can travel. You were car sick from the time you were a puppy. All my dreams of vacationing with you crashed at that point. Even a trip to the vet would make you empty your intestines on the floor or seat of my car. For a full year, on the advice of your vet, we continued to take you around on short drives, in the city. To friends homes, the in laws place, to the market, etc. the first thing was to make this a routine, to make you comfortable with getting in and sitting in the car so that at some point you would be ready to go a longer distance. It is much more difficult to travel with a pet which has travel anxiety and has never sat in a vehicle.

Pet parents wanting to travel, try lounging with your pet in the car while it is parked for a few days, gradually take them on really short drives, increasing time and distance slowly. If your pet cannot adjust, it is better for everyone to leave him/ her at home or with someone instead of ruining everyone’s holiday.

Some pointers to other pet parents who would like to consider travelling with their pets. 

Pick a pet friendly destination / place to stay. Do your research, make enough calls, speak to the people and tell them if you have special needs for the pet. It should have enough space to exercise your pet and should not be very complicated to approach or navigate. So no heavily decorated place, no place that is above the 5th floor, no place that does not have a yard/ garden or atleast easy access to the road outside so we can walk you.

Pick a mode of transport that the pet is used to and comfortable with. We took you by road (hired an Innova) and gave you the middle seat. We also broke the roughly 700 km journey into two days. Covering about 600 kms the first day and the rest on the second. We ideally like to complete about 70-75% of the distance on day one and do the rest on the second day after a good night's rest. 

Carry enough towels and bed sheets (to line the seats and floor of the car, incase your pet gets sick), newspaper.

Carry food, bowls, water, glucose powder and stop every 3-4 hours for a vanilla icecream treat as well as loo breaks. We don’t feed you till we stop for the night because you have terrible motion sickness. That has not stopped us from doing road trips with you. We have figured out a way to combat it. Firstly, we start early in the morning, lets say by 5 a.m and stop about 5-6 pm in the evening. You do not feel hungry till about 10 a.m which means we would have already covered 5 hours of driving by then. We give you an anti vomit tablet an hour before we begin to help you. Stop for loo breaks, keep you hydrated with water and give you glucose powder every 30 minutes or so. Every 3-4 hours, we give you a small cup of vanilla icecream. This is sufficient nourishment for you till we reach. After the first hour, you figure out the routine, slump off on the seat and sleep.

The goa drive was a bit hard on you (as compared to Bangalore – coorg last year). You vomitted a few times, mostly bile. But once cleaned up, you were fine and good to go.

A word to pet parents, this is the stuff that works for us. We have been doing this after speaking to our veterinarian. Infact the glucose and ice-cream thing is based on her advice. Please check with your own vet before you travel anywhere.

Once we reach our destination for the day, we wash you with a wet towel so you feel fresh, give you lots of water and feed you the amount you would eat for one meal. We do not try to over feed you because we starved you through the day. We ensure we sleep early so you too can catch up on your sleep and recover.


At the destination:
We keep you leashed till;
You get familiar with the place (usually one day)
People / staff of the place get familiar with you
There are other guests and if we are in public places like restaurants and shopping areas.

At the hotel / place we are staying, I spread my own double bedsheet on the bed over the hotel provided linen to prevent / minimize damage.
While most hotels specifically mention that the pets are not to be allowed on the furniture and beds, we all know how much you love to leap onto said bed and furniture. While you do not sleep on the bed, you like to climb on for some cuddling or play time. Most hotel linen is white and its best to carry some thick heavy duty stuff which will prevent damage and embarrassment.

Carry emergency medication for basic stuff and be in touch with your vet incase you need anything.

I continue with your regular daily routine even when on holiday. So while I crib about waking up before sunrise on a holiday, it keeps you sane that you still have your walk / meals / playtime as usual even though the location and people have changed.

At meal times, check if you can be taken into the restaurant and sit in an area where you will be comfortable. For instance, in Goa, we sat in places which were not bang in the middle of the restaurant, but on the side, so you had enough space to sprawl on the floor and didn’t come in the way of other guests.

Politeness and smiles go a long way in opening doors to people traveling with pets. We always called ahead at restaurants to check if we could take you and kept you leashed till they said it was ok to let you off.

Carry food, water, bowls and paper towels everywhere, preferably in a bag. So when you embarrassingly pooped in the sand in middle of a shack, I just cleaned up and walked on. We asked for ice cubes to cool the water for you and gave you your own food to prevent you from begging at the table (failing miserably, you are a sorry little beggar)

If people stop by to make friends with / pet you, we always make sure you are siting and calm before they can do that. We also tell them specifically where they can touch you for the first time (usually the back or your ears) so you are not startled. We also repeat the key word “friend so you know they are friends.



Some don’ts while traveling with a pet

Do not overfeed or drug your pet with tranquilisers or sedatives. If your pet is car sick he will repeatedly vomit if he has undigested food in the tummy. This is just a very unpleasant experience for everyone involved. Many people told me they give sedatives and mild tranquilisers to their pets. I discussed this with the vet who cautioned us against doping you (thank god!). I much prefer to talk to you, make you comfortable, and stroke your body while you sleep.

Do not force your pet onto people anywhere. Most people are generally wary of an animal they don’t know and will be scared. This is natural. Do not take offense.

Do not leave your pet unattended no matter how friendly he/she is. You are one of the friendliest dogs around. You love it when people stop to pet/ talk to you. Yet I or K constantly have an eye on you. We do not allow people however friendly to lead you away from us and never ever leave you unattended especially when there are kids around. The problem is, they are new to you, and there is no telling how you may react. There could be a tone of voice or a gesture or a sudden movement which annoys you. Or they could do something to tease you. Or may just have a juicy piece of food on their plate that looks appealing. Its better to be a little cautious than have unexpected behaviour from anyone. In case there is a misbehaviour, the pet always takes the blame and that can be avoided if the human is somewhere around.

Do not feed your pet strange food or something he / she is not used to eating. For the simple reason that you don’t want to make them sick and ruin your holiday.

Do not exert your pet unnecessarily. We ensured you stayed in the airconditioned room for the hottest part of the day and got your regular siesta. Walks on the beach were always early morning and evening after sundown. If we were going to a restaurant close by, we would walk, else we took the car everywhere we thought we couldn’t walk comfortably.

Sunday, June 10, 2012

some pictures of me and other animals

This is Jay, he and Bagsi looked after me when my parents traipsed off for a few days in April... he is one of my most favourite people in the world


see how paavum i look?

that's me with Kman lounging about on J &B's bed

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

the truth about having a dog

i wrote a really long post about the reality of life with a pet, especially a dog. i love you, there is no doubt about that... and i wont trade you for anything.... i had to write this because in the last few days i've had these kind of encounters

spaced out girl #1: hey! can i touch him? whats his name? how old is he?
me: yeah of course, his name is Sage he's 9 months old
spaced out girl #1: i love dogs too and want to get one... infact where did you get him from? can you give me the number?
me: oh that's nice... yeah sure, some guy i met through a vet. where do you work? (she was walking with a laptop bag and a dangling Id)
spaced out girl #1: oh great, please give me, i want a Lab, will he have them? i work with XYZ company.
me: then who will look after the dog when you are at work? cos when they are small they need to be fed and cleaned etc...
spaced out girl #1: oh i was hoping you can help me here, do you know of any dog day care centre where i can leave the dog, because my hours are unpredictable.
me: oh! no i dont know of any, but even if there are, it would be very tough on the dog... so maybe you should think of it when you can spare the time....
spaced out girl #1: noooooo but i wanted one....
me: ok... goodluck then!

couple stops their bike and the girl gets off to pet the dog
girl: may i (gesturing if she can touch Sage)
me: yeah sure... he's friendly
girl: we also want to get one... where did you get him?
me: from a friend (way easier than explaining about the breeder)
girl: he's so cute... are you working?
me: yes, but mostly from home, although i do leave him for about 8 hours when i go to office
girl: do they need to be with people? cant they stay alone? because both of us are working so we will have to leave him in the house.
me: oh, better if they have company atleast till they are 5-6 months, cant leave them for more than few hours, because they will do susu potty in the house...
girl: oh but what about using the toilet? wahan kar sakthey hain na?
me: yes if you train them... but they need to be fed also when they are small, below 5 months they need 4 meals a day.
girl: oh ok... i and my hubby work night shifts, we come back at 2 a.m do you think its ok to make them also into night shift?
me: i dont know, i havent tried it. but will you have the energy to spare?
girl: yeah that's what i am thinking.... but they are so cute no? i wanted one badly....
guy: do you think we can keep saint bernard in hyd?
me: people do have them, but they suffer in the heat of hyd.
guy: yeah because my friend has one in bangalore
me: ok, bangalore is much cooler than here... also, they need space, you cant keep them in a flat
guy: no no, flat mein hi adjust ho jaata hai
me: i dont think that's wise... anyways nice talking... chalo goodluck then!

these are the kind of conversations i have.... i know dogs are cute... but they also involve atleast 2 hours of your time per day to care for them. if you cant give that, dont get one....

in the last few months, i have tried to help a dog orphanage which rescues and rehabilitates abandoned dogs. they have a large number of purebreeds which are abandoned by people who pay money for them because they cannot take care of them anymore.... all animal shelters will tell you similar stories....

so read my post here... tell me what you think....

Thursday, February 16, 2012

encounters

what's with you and wanting to be friendly with people who dont even like you? cant you tell the difference between hostile and friendly people? no? i thought as much... you went towards the same people i had a run in with a few months ago...you were within 3 feet of them and they still had a problem... told me i am not to leave you around when they are around too... i mean it was 10.00 p.m should i wait till midnight to bring you downstairs? are you not to be walking around either just because humans who are scared shitless of a dog are around? this time, i didnt say anything... didnt respond...didnt apologise... nothing and i think it pissed off little mrs muffet a lot more... when i didnt react, she threatened to "take up the matter with the association (residents association) to ensure that i am not allowed to keep the dog". for the first time, i replied with a smile and said..."yeah surely you should do that"

i have fought / argued with a total of 4 people in as many months over you....i will continue to do so if i know you are not to be blamed.... that's my love for you... Take it...

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

what were you thinking?

so yesterday it turns out, my darling sage, you decided it was time to embarrass me like a super bumper lottery.  we were on our first walk of the morning, you went along the regular route to check on who else had been snooping about in the time that you were sleeping and began marking your milestones/ flagposts once again. I met the large gentleman with the small dog (Buddy the 4 year old pug). you guys sniffed about while the man and i spoke... general chit chat....buddy is the guy you are indifferent about, unlike Snicker the Dachshund or Chubby the Golden Retriever. you will give buddy a cursory sniff and then stand or sit by my feet till i begin to walk away. I had no reason to believe it was going to be different. Sometimes when the humans we meet on our walks chat for longer than you like, or you are bored, you just pull at the leash and indicate that you are done, and i have to wind up quickly too...

this gentleman who owns buddy loves to talk...which is fine... because i love that too... but he talks at the pace that a snail walks... i have to stop myself from completing his sentences.... yesterday was no different... he droned on and on... i was being polite and having an eye on you... you suddenly decided that you'd had enough and just lifted your leg and peed on Buddy!

the embarrassment! my god, thankfully my reflexes were quick and i pulled you away in time to prevent a shower on poor buddy! 

what were you thinking Sage? for one... the gentleman will definitely not speak with me for a while now! and i will move on after the cursory hello from dog walkers!

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Getting ticked off

Yesterday was a milestone i'd rather not remember. the day went off as always, with you following me, giving me model behaviour through the day and the evening. K was in bangalore and was to return later in the evening. Around 8 p.m after we'd both had our dinner, we went down for a potty break and a walk. you were already very excited cos there was dropped yogurt in the lift you wanted to lick and i didn't let you...a few other's got into the lift (they - building secretary, were terrified for no reason - pet hating assholes)...so why couldnt they wait for us to go down and use the lift later? they insisted on climbing in and i had to use all my strength to restrain you... you are used to being petted and so couldn't understand the hostility.  

with the excitement and i think the urgency to pee, you peed in the corridor, in full view of the building association secretary and treasurer. I went to get the cloth i keep handy to clean up after you, in a fraction of a second, you escaped from my grip and ran toward the badminton court where a family was playing. every evening there is a group of kids who play with you at the badminton court, and for you this was no different.  the kid of this family is a cantankerous one. she threw a shuttle cock at you and began to run, shrieking all the time in a high pitched voice. you thought it was fun and games and started to run behind her. i was chasing behind the both of you, asking both of you to stop. Kids being kids, they are more agile than 30 yr olds... and you being you, obliged. soon there was yelling and screaming and shrieking and about 10 odd poeple who were around in the parking lot/ badminton court/ lift area were all trying to catch you and you were delighted that so many people wanted to play. but quickly realised they were pissed off with you and not wanting to play. i think it broke your heart in that moment, and you lay down near the lift.

i apologised to the family whose kid you chased. there were 12 people pointing fingers at you and me and accusing me of letting loose on them a dangerous dog. i didnt want you or me to go thru any more than necessary nonsense, usually a quick and sincere apology is all that matters, so they got one...then i hugged you and told you i love you and that we should go walk....

It doesnt matter that she provoked you and threw stuff at you and then ran. it matters that you are a dog and a dog has to be well behaved, disciplined and trained at all times. no matter if you are just a baby, you still are a huge threat to anyone who even sets eyes upon you. have you noticed the number of people who shrink away when you are on a walk? even if you are paying no attention to them? or the number of people i have heard telling their kids "dont go there, that dog will bite" instantly instilling a morbid fear in the mind of the little child, who will grow up to be a stone throwing ass.

we went on our walk, you knew something was terribly off and were so subdued. when we returned i left you with the security guard to go and check if the kid was ok. I told the father that you'd escaped in a flash of a second from my hands, seeing that someone was playing as there are kids in the building who play with you everyday. that i wasnt making an excuse, but that it wasnt intentional and that you wouldnt hurt anyone. he brushed it off sdaying it was ok and that his daughter herself was wanting a dog. i also asked him to apologise to his wife on my behalf as she was (understandably) agitated and told me to keep the dog chained or locked up.  i walked a few steps and encountered the lady in question. i told her the same thing, about the kids and the flash of a second reflex action. she then asked why you werent well trained. i wanted to ask her how trained her kids were at 5 months, but i held myself, explaining that you were still a puppy. she then said she was afraid you would bite. i empathised and said i knew just how terrifying it would be to be chased by a dog, and that you are docile and would not bite. i had to hear the snide comment of "all dog owners say that their dogs dont bite". i didnt want to argue or reason with someone who thinks that the mere sight of a dog is dangerous. i simply said i agreed with her and walked away with you.

you came back upstairs and wanted to sit in my lap. i knew you were upset....we comforted each other, as i was also roughed up a bit. i wish this would not have happened, but it was inevitable i guess.

i know its traumatic and terrifying to have a dog run after you. i am not denying that. i feel very guilty that my reflexes were not sharp enough to catch you. i've made a resolve to have you on a tighter leash and not try to make you make friends with hostile people.

I narrated this story to K when he got back from bangalore. he was furious at the people who thought you were dangerous....saying that some of the kids in the building are a bigger nuisance than you are! typical K, blinded by his love for you...but at the end of the day, i think we all needed that. 

Thursday, October 20, 2011

give him to me

boy have you grown big! i cant carry you anymore! i keep saying that i know... but now, i truly cant. and the days that i do try, my body feels battered!

we've begun practice walking without the leash. at first i allowed you to do the last 5-10 feet into the house, inside the corridor without the leash. we moved onto you walking to the lift without it.... then the last leg before we entered the gate, and today we did the whole walk without the leash. when the roads are empty and you are not distracted by anything else, you obey and look only for me... so its pretty easy and safe! like mary's little lamb, always a couple of steps behind me... when you spot someone you know, a few steps ahead... if you think i am not around, you immediately stop in your tracks and sit rooted to the spot till you or i find each other. am amused and proud! but i do need to get K to walk you at times, cos you are refusing to go with him!

the sandpile! there is construction going on in our lane and a full lorry load of sand was delivered a few days ago. i took you to it to watch your reaction. as always i wish i'd filmed it! you approached the sand mountain gingerly, then fingered it with your paws, when the sand gave way, you dug furiously and joyously and made a small tunnel to bury your head into. snout, face and feet all coated with fine sand! after doing that a couple of times, you got bored of it (yes you have the attention span of a wasp!). so then you decide to roll....over on your back and back again onto your front, gleefully enjoying the sand in your face and mouth and other orifaces! i havent the heart to tell you to stop.

So this spectacle continues for a few times each day and today, one construction worker stopped to talk to me. most of them just stand around and watch and when you know people are watching you play to the galleries. So this guy asks how old you are, etc and then says "madam, give him to me no....i will bring him up and keep him well. he's a nice dog" i said, yeah sure why not ...see if he will go with you and handed him the leash. he takes a few steps, till the leash permits, then turns around. you are rooted to the ground, sitting tight on a spot and looking at me desperately. he tries to whistle and cajole you and you dont budge an inch. he tries some more... then finally gives up and hands me back the leash. you jump up and start licking my hands and whatever other body part you can reach. he tells me "madam this dog doesnt want to leave you, not even one step he took without you". i say "yes i know" but inside i am ecstatic and choking at the same time. Choking for how much loyalty you have or love or that i am your alpha pack leader or whatever it is that made you stay rooted to the ground and not budge an inch. you delighted me beyond what i can explain  that day....

Saturday, October 15, 2011

stopped counting

We got you on a saturday, the 13 of august and it was raksha bandhan/ avani avittam that day. ever since, i count each saturday to see how many weeks we've had you. yesterday i didnt. does this mean something? because it feels like we always had you now.

K texted what has to be the most beautiful message he's ever written (and that is saying something!). it included you and he has forbidden me from writing it here on a public forum. am just making an entry so i dont forget. and every time i complain of how much my arms ache cos you pull on the leash, i hope to remember this message.

its sunday today and i woke up as usual at 5.45 a.m. we've gone on our walk and i am onto my second cup of coffee. you've had your milk and breakfast. K is asleep with the a/c on and the room is so chill, yet you want to sit at my feet in the study where even the fan isnt on, although you love the a/c... my little lamb.

you are making it a practice to pick up fallen flowers on our walks and slink off as though you have a rabbit or partridge in your mouth. its hilarious to see a half grown dog with large pink flower in his mouth. did i say that you are adorable? or is it just my blinding love?

oh yeah and the fanbase is increasing! there are some 'hot chicks' as K likes to call them. they come and call you by name and tell us which apt they live in and how much they talk about you and they fall all over you to pet you. you love it.... but i think K loves it more! he also said how old it makes him feel!

btw, random boys are coming up to speak with me! i have so far met parag, chetan and amit... they all appear to be terrified of even touching you but they pretend to be dog lovers and ask my name in between asking yours, how old and what breed! totally random and very amusing!


Saturday, October 1, 2011

offers to babysit

today marks 6 weeks since we got you. i cant believe its only 6, feels like a lifetime. I woke up with no alarm on a satur(freaking)day to take you out and i didnt hate you or my life one bit!

yesterday a car stopped in the middle of the colony street where we walk, out popped two very attractive young (early 20's.... yeah ... i know!) girls who asked permission to touch you. they rubbed and petted you and you rolled over for a belly rub. they baby talked and behaved like they knew you forever. then they looked up at me, asked how old you were, if we had moved in recently and told me where they lived. they said they wanted me to know that they would be very willing to look after you if i had to step out for a few hours/days. I thanked them for the generosity of their offer. you are very cute right now i agree, but i am still shocked at how generous people are with their show of affection. ever since we got you, friends have offered to take you in if needed. you have atleast 3 official godmothers... and now random strangers too....

just when i was becoming cynical and generally grouchy, you come and thru you i learn a whole new side of the story.....